Why “Taken” Men are More Attractive?

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Or rather, why women — and men — are more attracted to men who are already in relationships.

First of all, these are merely my observations and somewhat uncorroborated theories on the matter, so don’t take this to heart and scream bloody murder if you discommend my thoughts. Do, however, share your opinions if you have any. This is also not a personal attack on anyone.

We always hear about some women still looking to pry someone’s boyfriend away or going for married men. We’ve even gone as far as calling them “itchy cunts”. But where’s the logic, right? Is it temporary insanity? Is it really true love — the right guy, wrong timing sort of thing?

Display of Commitment
Well, my theory is simple. These women may not even be really attracted to these men; take them out of their relationships and suddenly they ain’t so hot anymore. What they’re attracted to, however, is the display of commitment. Women go for other women’s boyfriends because these guys show that they’re committed enough to want to be in a relationship, and they go for married men because married men prove that they actually can and want to take care and live happily ever after with someone. These women are probably insecure, or have been hurt in the past by some sod who can’t commit. They probably refuse to take risks with other single guys whose commitment isn’t guaranteed.

Ka-ching!
Another plausible reason is probably money. Guys with girlfriends, wives and families tend to have that extra cash to keep everybody surviving and happy. Perhaps there’s a perception that single guys spend all that cash on themselves and wouldn’t know how to stop and spend on their other halves when they do go into relationships.

Be Attracted But Don’t Act
All that said, that attraction itself is rather harmless but acting upon it is another matter altogether. I admit, I find myself somewhat drawn to fathers — men with kids are adorable, like Hugh Jackman (pictured above). But respect your own kind; put yourself in their shoes before you decide to go after their men. Not so pleasant, is it?
Plus, in this day and age, married men does are not necessarily equivalents of wonderful, caring and loving Prince Charmings. You’ve heard stories of domestic violence, serial cheaters, high divorce rates and all sorts of horrendous marriage nightmares. So being a homewrecker might not be the only “sacrifice” one has to make.

But Wait …
Ah, so what about men who go for women in relationships and marriages? Could it be an innate “forbidden fruit” thrill? Men, please humor me.

Better Together

Sometimes, music can say it a lot better than any words we can utter or pen down. Enjoy.



There’s no combination of words
I could put on the back of a postcard
No song that I could sing
But I can try for your heart
Our dreams, and they are made out of real things
Like a shoebox of photographs
With sepia-toned loving
Love is the answer
At least for most of the questions in my heart, like
Why are we here? And where do we go?
And how come it’s so hard?
It’s not always easy and
Sometimes life can be deceiving
I’ll tell you one thing, it’s always better when we’re together

It’s always better when we’re together
Yeah, we’ll look at the stars and we’re together
Well, it’s always better when we’re together
Yeah, it’s always better when we’re together

And all of these moments
Just might find their way into my dreams tonight
But I know that they’ll be gone
When the morning light sings
And brings new things
For tomorrow night you see
That they’ll be gone too
Too many things I have to do
But if all of these dreams might find their way
Into my day-to-day scene
I’d be under the impression
I was somewhere in between
With only two
Just me and you
Not so many things we got to do
Or places we got to be
We’ll sit beneath the mango tree, now

Yeah, it’s always better when we’re together
Mmmm, we’re somewhere in between together
Well, it’s always better when we’re together
Yeah, it’s always better when we’re together

I believe in memories
They look so, so pretty when I sleep
Hey now, and when I wake up
You look so pretty sleeping next to me
But there is not enough time
There is no, no song I could sing
And there is no combination of words I could say
But I will still tell you one thing
We’re better together

A New Dawn, a New Day, a New Life.

Life is so precious.

Life is so short.

Treasure every moment you have with your loved ones.

Savour the time you have left in this lifetime.

Words that are all too familiar, often spoken in sorrow and grief when one loses someone dear to them or gets wind of tragic news, worthy of heartbreaks and tears.

But somehow, we’ll soon forget. Until the next death, that is.

Every new day should be enough to serve as a reminder. Not death itself.

Just think about it.

(If the title sounds familiar, it’s some of the words from Nina Simone’s Feeling Good, also covered by Michael Bublé.)